Excerpt from C.S. Lewis' Out of the Silent Planet.
"A pleasure is full grown only when it is remembered. You are speaking, Hman, as if the pleasure were one thing and the memory another...What you call remembering is the last part of pleasure, as the crah is the last part of a poem.
When you and I met, the meeting was over very shortly, it was nothing. Now it is growing something as we remember it. But still we know little about it. What it will be when I remember it as I lie down to die, what it makes in me all my days till then- that is the real meeting. The other is the beginning of it.
...the poem is a good example. For the most splendid line becomes fully splendid only by means of all the lines after it; if you went back to it you would find it less splendid than you thought.
And how could we endure to live and let time pass if we were always crying for one day or one year to come back - if we did not know that every day in a life fills the whole life with expectation and memory and that these are that day?"
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What sweet sentiment? It is my feeling that Mr. Lewis carefully articulated perspective in this clever dialog between Ransom and Hyoi, two characters in his SciFi fantasy triology. Therefore, I wont elaborate to clarify his point.
However, wanted to connect it to a thought that I have been ruminating, as I would on a fine wine, or gummy bears. Ah, et's use this example; marriage.
I didn't love you until I met you, then I met you and knew I always loved you.
A interview with Peter Rollings brought this libe to my attention. Basically, it develops the idea that one falls in love with someone, not the idea of someone. A beloved's character and self is the one who my affections befalls. Simply, a lover will fall in love with his beloved. Not the idea of the beloved.
E.g. John loves his wife Jenny. John loves Jenny, not his "wife". Jenny happens to be John's wife. Because of his love of Jenny, John married her. Don't get too technical with this, I am just trying to make an illustration.
I mean, that is more romantic right? I wouldnt want my wife to say "yeah, I had the feelings developed and a wedding planned, I just needed for someone to fill in the blank."
I love _(insert name)__ became I love _Jake_.
Not my idea of romance.
So in this idea that Lewis presented, the meeting of my beloved will be a meeting ever coming. Because it builds from the day of the wedding not only the days to it. I meet someone (not the idea) and continually meet them as we dive into the endless depths of a human heart.
It builds one day upon the next. And the culmination of that meeting becomes greater as the days march on, continually meeting one another. My wedding day will become sweeter with every day wedded. From that celebrated day on is the real meeting of her.
What hope to see the new day? The sweetness of a new morning is also intrinsically sweet for our relationships and friendships.
I used the wedding analogy to extrapolate a Lewis concept. Other extrapolations can be made. So, extrapolate away.